Not sure if you heard or not but we're moving up to Highland UT and I'm going to go to school at UVU starting the summer semester. We are SO excited! Kurt still doesn't have a job yet, but we have a place to live and we know this is the right thing for us to do and we know something will come up. If you live in the area, lets get together soon!
This blog has kinda become a dumping ground and I'm sorry, for those of you still reading (I totally would've deleted me by now!)
Who is Ice Woman?
Ice Woman is the name my sister has come up with for my other personality. My Mr. Hyde if you will. Ice Woman is harsh, cold, she's thick skinned, insensitive, irritable, bored, tired, impatient. She slumps her shoulders, creases her brow, walks slowly and stubbornly, head towards the floor and there may even be some eye rolling involved.
Where did Ice Woman come from?
She was born, I'm pretty sure, around the time my dad passed away. After my dad passed away I didn't stay home and grieve like any normal person did, Ice Woman made me run. She went to school for me, interacted for me, although I know I was partly there too at the time. But that was the start and I've noticed Ice Woman making more and more appearances lately.
When was the last time Ice Woman came?
She's here now. I just went shopping with Drew and saw something on a muffin box that made her come. This said Something is everywhere at the moment. And I don't know why it bugs her so. I think she's just tired of it. She's tired of a lot of things very quickly. She's not naive about how serious things are. No. She knows first hand how serious it is, she's just insensitive. Because she knows first hand she's become bored of it. Bored of it being talked about. Bored that it's everywhere. Again don't get her wrong! She knows what everyone's trying to do and it's a good thing. But sometimes things get old quickly for her. Then things in the news. Why should people have to cater to others? Again, just old and tired of people and certain situations. Ice Woman is very unsympathetic. So she came at the grocery store and when Drew got lost Ice Woman stayed. Did I go running around looking for my lost child like any good mother should? No Ice Woman was just annoyed. Annoyed because Noelle had told Drew to stay be me because she'll turn herself around and end up with her back to me and start to freak out that I left her, when actuality I'll be right be right behind her. If you can't tell it's happened before. No Ice Woman was annoyed and kept shopping. She waited as she picked her cheese. She waited, although hoped it wouldn't happen as she scoured the aisles around her in hopes she'd spot Drew, and while she was waiting for her turkey to be cut, her waiting finally ended.
"Attention Walmart customers. We have a lost Mom. Could Noelle please come to the service desk? Could Noelle please come to the service desk?"
Ice Woman waited nonchalantly for her turkey to be done. Then slowly with slumped shoulders and a crease on her brow, walked over to the service desk. Ice Woman only gave an irritated scowl as she rounded the corner to the service desk. She didn't run up to her daughter and give her a great big hug and say things like, "I'm SO glad you're safe." Nope. She just picked her up, gave a half smile to the lady behind the counter, and said to her beloved daughter, "You're never coming with me to the store again." Ice Woman meant it too.
Ice Woman doesn't sound like a good mom.
Nope. She's not. And she's not a good wife either. Instead of holding her husband with loving arms, she looks over his shoulder and looks at the mess he could've cleaned up while she was gone. She doesn't hug him back and is only irritated that husband was trying to pick a freaking shirt, instead of just throwing one on and coming out to help bring the groceries in.
Would Ice Woman receive help?
Maybe. I think she's so far gone, so much has happened to her that I'm not sure what could be done. Really? She doesn't come THAT often. She takes jabs to the stomach a little at least every day, but she doesn't stay very long, very often. I don't think anything will help with her thick skin. There's been times where she tried to break free. She wanted to cry, and there's been a couple of success stories. Last night I cried for my dear friend Megan battling cancer. I cried for my friends getting a divorce. I cried for a friend close to me in his goal to be the person he wants to be. But sometimes I don't show up like when she was photographing the babies who passed away. She tried crying because she felt like she needed to. She was sad but nothing broke her thick skin. She became immune and showed her husband the slideshow, not thinking he'd be affected by it. Then something weird happened. She saw something leak from his eye. What was that? Oh, he was crying! He asked Ice Woman to turn it off and she was dumbfounded. Again don't get me wrong. If it had been her child she wouldn't be here. The real human would be here. But she's not human and she has little feeling unless it's negative. At that moment she was somewhat envious of her husband. He had a soul.
Why couldn't Ice Woman have a soul?
She wants one and every time there's a chunk of ice chiseled off she's ecstatic! But it's slow going. There's a lot of hammering involved. She has to let go of the ice. She doesn't like it when her head is hot and bursting and is close to exploding. She doesn't like that pit in her stomach and the heavy weight in her chest. She hates being insensitive and soulless but I think sometimes she's worried what a blubbering idiot she'll become if she was sensitive to everyone and everything. So for right now it's slow going. Maybe one day, when her kids are older and more crap has happened to her to make things more personal, she'll melt. Then again she could become stronger.
It's been so long since I've posted on this blog. I've really missed it and the connections I had with you guys that I haven't had since starting my other one. We've been doing good and keeping buys with everyday life. I'm really excited for this weekend. After this weekend we would've attended 3 BBQ's. That's how you do summer!
Drew is getting ready for Kindergarten next year. Every day she wakes up and asks me if she's going to her big school yet. I have to tell her not yet! She turns 5 this month and I cannot believe how fast she's grown. I also have to remember that she is still a little kid and needs to be treated as such. I've seen too many people expect too much out of their oldest child. It's SO sad and I know I'm guilty of doing this myself but when we expect our oldest to help us take care of their siblings I think we're asking them to grow up too fast. Yes it's great when they do help, and nothing is wrong with them getting a diaper for us or helping capture a stray sibling but it's when we expect too much from them that I think can they can be really effected by things. I dunno. What do you think? Other than that tangent she is doing great, singing up a storm in church and having a blast playing with friend EVERYDAY!
Brody is 3 and he is a boy. He is finally potty trained and it's going really good! That took a lot of stress out of us and now he has the cutest Paul Frank BBD's ever! One mistake we made during potty training is also the best thing we did to help him potty train. Teaching him to pee outside. Now where ever he goes he thinks he can pull down his drawers and go. Oops! Not only #1 but #2! Thank goodness he's only done #2 in our yard but still, YUCK! Brody is finally able to keep up with Drew and even take her down sometimes. They fight quite often which is junk, I can't stand whining, but they get along really good when they do!
Alia is SO fun and SO busy right now! She is climbing on everything, pushing all the buttons, opening drawers, pulling out clothes, books down, playing in the toilet, eating everything she can get her hands on but she is SO cute while doing it! She absolutely loves her family! She tries to talk but the only thing she's saying is Mom, that, please, and hello. Everything else she just screams for. She is 15. 5 months and I can't wait till she goes in the nursery. She is the biggest distraction in our primary class but also our mascot. Hahaha!
Kurt and I are doing good. In late September it will be our 8th anniversary! CRAZY! We've been watching Avatar The Last Airbender for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I don't know how the movie is going to level up to the tv show but I think it'll be fun to shave Brody's head, paint a blue arrow on it, and go see it anyways. Is it totally against my nature to be more excited for that than for Eclipse? Kurt is still a supervisor at the bucket factory, as we call it. He has a weird schedule: He works 2 days ,off 2 days, on 3 days. Then the next week, 2 days off, 2 days on, 3 days off and repeat. We actually like it but he still works the night shift and I'm not totally crazy about that. Cedar is hot but treating us well. We absolutely LOVE our ward which is good but I always wish I we lived closer to my sisters up north.
Well other than that SO much more but I just wanted to relay the basics.
Wow I make it a point to be a better mommy blogger and actually update my family blog but it only lasts for one or two posts. So not really. For those of you who don't know I got a new professional blog, Studionoelle.com/blog! I LOVE it and I'm super excited about the whole thing. Well just wanted to let you know that my new blog is going to become my professional AND family blog. I'm going to keep this one as well, in case there is anything too personal I don't want other people reading but if you want family updates follow my other blog. I hope you stop on by because I'm going to be better updating and saying hello to you guys again. See you soon!